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Getting Our Eyes Back on God

But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints…For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Ephesians 5:3-5 (NKJV)

I saw the front page of the USA Today newspaper recently and on the cover was a catch line – “Is Dating Dead?”   Following this question was the statement, “Less commitment and more hookups.”  This really caught my attention, because I feel this statement is a type of social, moral, and spiritual barometer for our modern day American culture.  As I read this statement of “Less commitment,” I had to ask myself, less commitment to what?  Or should I say, “Who”?

Well, obviously in the context of this article it meant less - or in their case - “No commitment” to each other in any form other than sexual.  This lack of commitment within a relationship is basically saying, “It is all about me and my needs and desires and I don’t really care about you – if it works for you, then all the better for me…” But this is not what commitment is all about. 

The word, “commitment” means making a promise, an obligation, or dedicating oneself with the responsibility of fulfilling it.  It speaks of accountability for one's actions.  We live in a society where it is acceptable to “hook up” with one another in fornication for the sexual gratification that was to be reserved by God for the marriage of a man and woman.  We see this truth clearly spoken of in Proverbs.

Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? Proverbs 5:15-20 (NKJV)

For a person not to even desire to make a commitment in relationship, but solely be focusing on having a sexual relationship speaks to the core of their nature, which is self-centered, self-absorbed, self-serving or plain old selfishness.  It is the antithesis of “selfless,” and more importantly it is the direct opposite of Jesus Christ.  

I have to make a point here, because I believe it speaks to the real issue—the lack of commitment isn’t primarily between the two people involved in sexual fornication, as much as it is between each of them independently and God. 

If we make a true commitment to God, we will desire to please Him, and abide in His will—this will carry us through the temptations of the enemy.  We will be tempted, but we will respond by saying, “I love you Jesus more than I desire this thing tempting me.”  It will be our commitment to Jesus sustaining us, along with the power of the Holy Spirit.  And it will be this same power and commitment enabling us to commit to a loving relationship in the same way Jesus loves us—selflessly. 

I want to encourage you to think about these truths, because we will all be able to share this with friends and acquaintances of ours.  Let’s speak into the lives of those who profess to know Jesus, yet have grown apathetic to God’s will.  Let’s speak to them in love and in truth.  Let’s encourage them to make a true commitment to Jesus. 

STUDY QUESTION: According to Ephesians 5:3-5 what can we learn about the act of fornication?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Do you have friends or family members who identify themselves as Christian, yet they are involved in sexually physical relationships where fornication is occurring?

PRACTICAL APPLICATION: Pray God will give you the opportunity and the boldness to encourage them to repent and seek to commit their life to the Lord. 

LET’S PRAY: Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for Your guidance through Your Word.  Thank You for showing us how we should seek to live.  Father, help us to encourage others and even to hold those who claim to know You accountable in love.  Help us to show them mercy and grace as well.  In Jesus’ precious name, amen…

Be blessed, Pastor Scott


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