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The Wisdom of Receiving Accountability

The Wisdom of Receiving Accountability

So David's anger was greatly aroused against the man, and he said to Nathan, "As the LORD lives, the man who has done this shall surely die! And he shall restore fourfold for the lamb, because he did this thing and because he had no pity." Then Nathan said to David, "You are the man!" 2 Samuel 12:5-7 (NKJV)

Nathan the prophet was a friend of King David, but he had the task of confronting the King and holding him accountable.  Nathan uses a story of a wealthy man wanting to feed his guests - he had plenty of livestock, but he decided to take the one little lamb another man had possessed as well.  David was furious about such a man, and he answers by saying the offending man deserves to die.  The problem was this - David was the offending rich man in Nathan's story.   His sin was being exposed and he had the decision to make as to how he would deal with this accountability.  We see here how he answered the man who confronted him.

Then David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the LORD..." 2 Samuel 12:13 (NKJV)

We have the same decision to make with respect to our wisely receiving accountability from others.  We must ask ourselves some questions before we are held accountable so we are prepared to do what is right.  

  • What will I do when someone confronts me on inappropriate actions?
  • Do you just blow them off, or become defensive and begin a slanderous assault on their character?
  • Am I willing to carefully examine what is being said and ask myself if there is legitimacy in it?  

There are many choices available to us when we are being held accountable, and it can be hard to make the correct decision when emotions take over.  This is why we have to make our decision before we are confronted with this challenge.  It is the decision to allow truth to overcome our injured pride, and it will determine whether we are freed or enslaved to that particular sin we have committed.

Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness,, Ephesians 6:14 (NKJV)

We can be tempted to look at the person who is holding us accountable as a traitor or an enemy, but this is far from the truth.  The fact is, if they are doing it in meekness and gentleness they're really showing true agape love because they care enough to confront and correct (Gal. 6:1).  I once heard it said, "When something is wrong, a friend will come and talk to you, but an enemy will simply talk about you."

God is our friend and He has provided a good friend in the Holy Spirit.  It is His job to confront us in our mind when something is not right, and then to guide us onto the correct path to stay clear of potential sin.  On the other hand, Satan is an enemy and he is the father of lies (John 8:44).  It is his mission statement to slander us and continue to bring accusation against us in an attempt to destroy both our life, and our Christian witness.

The Holy Spirit and Satan will both use people in our lives to speak to us -  some speaking truth, while others give bad advice, so it is important for us to listen to the good counsel of those who are being led by the Spirit of God.  When a Christian brother or sister is confronting us with a sin in our life, we need to take a lesson from King David - call it like it is and simply admit we have sinned against God.  Let's not get caught up in how we were confronted and deflect from the responsibility of our actions, because we will simply be adding to the list of our sins.

STUDY QUESTION: What two pieces of armor can we see in Ephesians 6:14 that would help us in being held accountable?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are you open to having God use a Christian brother or sister hold you accountable when you have sin in your life?

APPLICATION: Be eager to confess and repent when sin is confronted in your life because it is liberating to admit when we have strayed and disobeyed God.

Father, thank You for giving us the Holy Spirit to confront and counsel us in our walk.  Help me to be like David when being confronted with my sin by others that You have brought into my life.  In Jesus' precious name, amen...

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott

Copyright ©2017 by Pastor Scott Wright.
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